MAIN’s Christmas Guide
Christmas can be a magical time of year, but it can also be quite stressful for many autistic people. Here are some tips on how to have a less overwhelming Christmas.
Slowly introduce festivities
It can be a lot to go from a normal day, straight into winter wonderland. Think about slowly adding decorations, or doing Christmas themed activities during the build up to Christmas so that it feels like less of a sudden change. You don’t have to do everything all at once.
Plan ahead
We often feel better about events when we know more about what is going to happen, and when we feel more in control of things. Planning ahead can help with both of these things. You might want to plan in advance what you are doing for Christmas, including where you will be, when things will happen, and who will be there– uncertainty can be a big stress for many autistic people, and this can easily be relieved by knowing what to expect.
Think about what can reduce your stress
Let people in your life know how they can reduce your stress over Christmas, particularly if you are spending it away from home with other friends or family members. Things that you might want to think about could be:
– Knowing what food will be part of the Christmas meal – again, this can stop you from worrying about not knowing what you will be eating. You could even think about some safe foods to make
– Is there a quiet space that you can go to if everything gets overwhelming? Could you plan some good times in the day for a break or some alone time?
– What do they expect from you? – are you expected to get a gift for everyone? Should you bring something to eat?
Planning Presents
It’s also a good idea to plan ahead with your presents. Maybe write a list of who you will get presents for, if anyone, and budget how much you will spend, so that you don’t spend too much on presents. It could also be a good idea to write a list of things you might want, so that other’s have an idea of what to get you, and you know there’s something to look forward to.
Plan for your sensory needs
– Think about any comfort items you could bring with you if you are going somewhere for Christmas. These could be earplugs to drown out all of the noise of crowds and music, fidget toys that help with anxiety, or a hat/hoodie that could block out bright Christmas lights. You may wish to bring some snacks if you are worried about certain foods.
Create your own traditions
Think about what your ideal Christmas would be, and how you would prefer to celebrate. You may prefer a different Christmas meal, to decorate in your own way, or to do certain crafts or activities around Christmas. You don’t have to visit family if you don’t want to.
Coping with loneliness
Christmas can be very difficult if you are on your own, especially when it seems everyone else you know is busy with others. You might want to think about going to a local , or just enjoy your time alone – do something creative, eat your favourite food, and watch your favourite festive film.
You might like to volunteer at a local care home or food bank and join their Christmas meal. This is also a great way to meet new people if you are interested.
Call people or video call friends or family that you can’t be with in person.
Take some time off from social media, so you don’t have to see what others are doing. Comparison is the thief of joy!
